Skipping…no mary-mack-mack-mack here

Remember those fun jump roping songs? I used to love them and have dozens memorized while my friends in school and I jump-roped.

The other day I bought my 3yrs old daughter a jump rope and finally we got to play with it at the park.  My husband gave it a go but had trouble in the grass.  My daughter had seen on tv how it was supposed to be done and got frustrated she couldn’t do the same.  So she uses it to tie poeple up and to play tug-o-war.  At home I picked it up one afternoon but felt self concious to try it.  Heaving my large body up and down over a rope wasn’t my idea of a stylish way to loose weight.  I ddn’t even think it was healthy for someone my size to try and get their feet and knees to support that kind of jumping trauma.  Would my back break? I’ve had back problems before and this was not something I want to encounter again.  Would my husband be disgusted by my wobbily (jelloey, my husband likes to call it) body being catapulted? Would I fall on my face in front of my daughter?  WOuld I trip and fall on my baby? 

I took matters to the bedroom to try it out in peace.  I set up the rope behind me and prepared my body mentally for any accident to befall it.  I took a gentle swing and smoothly jumped over it with two feet.  I wont lie it did hurt.  My body is not used to supporting itself in the air and then having to catch it when it falls.  But I did it. I sset up again and took another more forceful swing and skipped so that only one foot goes over the rop first and then lands and the back leg lifts for the follow through.  There! That was much more easy on the body. So I tried a few good 5-10 skips before my daughter and hubby realized what the sound of the rope was… so suddenly they pop up and I stop self-conciously.  Hubby proceeds to tell me quite possitively that he doesn’t mind seeing my jello wiggling as long as it’s wiggling for sports.  So feeling happier with my back-handed compliment I start skipping in front of him and he’s quite impressed I can do so well.  I DID use to skip rope everyday durring recess and at home for like 2 years when i was 6-8. I loved it then and I loved it now. It felt exhilarating being able to do so well after so long that I made the mistake of getting cocky and did a highwire (where the rope doesn’t touch the florr and you have to jump higher to get over it) and suceeded and then got more cocky and did a crossover (where you cross your hands at the elbows and jump through the loop) but this wasn’t the bendable kinda rope i had as a kid and it didn’t twist fast enough and I stepped on it and tripped and fell over onto the bed and almost sprained my ankle.  I took a breather and warned myself that Allah put me back in my place with that last one.  Obvisouly I’m not 7 years old anymore. Still Hubby was proud and I was happy to be able to do it again.  He made me promise to do it daily and I happily did.  I tried it next on this spongy mat I got for the living room so my baby with his new cruising abilities wouldn’t fall and hit his hed on the tile.  It was much easier on my body and feet (ah my poor feet after that hard tile) and it was easier to jump.  So I put it away for that day.

The next day I took it out and played with my daughter and then started exercizing.  It felt great to do jumps and it certainly works out your whole body.  I anxiously watched the clock instead of singing jumping songs but perhaps next time I’ll sing a little diddy. After an hour of good all around exercizing I was indeed THE SWEATY HIJAB and when hubby got home I handed over the kids and took a relaxing shower.  Alhamdulillah.

AIM LOW…..

Many people aim really high when they try to loose weight.  They have it in their head that they need to change their whole life around to loose weight.  Ohhh no i said the C word! CHANGE.  It can be a scary word for people stuck in their ways.  Entrenched in their habits.  It’s hard for some people to take a chance and risk the posability that their life will change when they start to loose weight.  It’s scary to them to think that by their life changing so will their personality and goals and whole “master plan”.  Some people don’t feel comfortable stepping outside the box.  They love the security of the four walls blocking the view, trapping them, ensuring their daily routine…. these same people when forced out of the box (for example because the doc says if you don’t loose weight you will die soon) tend to over aim when setting goals.  They sign up for expensive gyms vowing to go to it everyday maybe twice a day, throwing all junk food away and buying only the latest healthy foods, weigh-in regularly and expect to see rapid weight loss…. then a week or month down the line the whole new lifestyle is hard to maintain so soon old habits return… chips and soda infiltrate the cabinets and fridge…that special meeting at the kid’s school interupted your workout routine…. you miss a morning weigh-in… or the scale doesn’t move fast enough…   all of these leads to a meltdown of loosing weight AND depression that you will never be able to change so you curl up and slink your way back into your box and build your walls higher.

Many of you are nodding your heads that this has happened to you.  Where’s the flaw what did I do wrong you may ask.  You aimed too high.

To start something new you do need enthusiasm and motivation but you also need realistic goals to set for yourself! You can’t start this whole regimen thinking in one month you will loose 10 lbs! Especailly when your sluggish body is used to it’s style and habits too.  Start yourself slow by slowly incorporating good habits and slowly weeding out the bad foods and drinks.  Replace each bad thing with a good alternative so everytime you want that bad thing you have something healthy to stuff your mouth with.  LIke I for example always want chocolate! Yet I got a large bag of carrots and told myself when I wander to the fridge for chocolate just pick up the carrot and munch away, as many carrots as you please. Eventaully I dropped most of my chocolate cravings.  I say most because I believe in a treat now and then as long as you realize it is a treat and you’re not cheating yourself by treating yourself too often.

Exercise once in a morning and the next day maybe you don’t and that’s ok. Maybe the next day you’ll feel motivated by your previous workout to work out again the day after that. You don’t need to kick the ball out of the park you just have to get it moving slowly to start loosing weight.  ANything you do towards your goal of loosing weight is a good thing and if you do nothing that is ok too and you just have to re-motivate yourself.  Set small conquorable goals.  I started out with a goal of loosing 10 kilos in 10 months. So if by the end of the month I lost one kilo I forced myself to be happy with that small advantage, hey a kilo is a kilo! I knew I could do better than that and I strive to do better than that but I don’t want to burn myself out and not complete looosing weight. After the first month when I lost 2 kilos I realized that would get me to my goal in half the time so I re made my goal to every month loose two kilos and that has worked really well for me.  After many months I have been able to see a steady drop.  Sure it looks slow on a graph or chart (which i do keep) but it does keep dropping without going up again.  When I feel extra motivated I try for 3 kilos a month or GASP! 4 kilos! When i told my hubby maybe this month I will try for three kilos he scoffed at me! Whoa one more kilo wow don’t rush things he mocked.  I gave him my “I’m smarter than you” look and said haven’t I lost so much weight so far and kept it off? If I aim low I can’t fail.

HEAR THAT? AIM LOW = NO FAIL

 

again: A I M  L O W  =  N O  F A I L !!!!

So by aiming low you set yourself up to achieve small but managable goals.  This works in nearly every area of life not just weight loss when you want to step out of your box.

When I converted to Islam it was daunting the rules one has to follow and how much you have to change in your life.  But I felt the pull and truth of Islam and that kept me motivated to continue.  Sure the first time I aimed too high.  I expected to be the perfect Muslim right away. Hijab, no alcohol, praying etc… but I failed why? I aimed REALLY too high… it takes a lot of small peronal obsticales to change so radically. I had to start with a small hedband scarf and work up to the full hijab.  I had to learn small sections of the prayers before ebing able to do them once then up to 5 times a day.  I had to realize the stupidity of drinking alcohol and it’s effect on me (which is bad effect..) [thanks friends for teaching me that one]………… 

So again to step out of the box: AIM LOW = NO FAIL

Insha’Allah! and Good Luck to you all in your goals and weight loss!

Zippers

I’ve had the same clothes for a long time now. When I first went to Lebanon I brought only the clothes that were modest and flattered my figure (which weren’t many). Once there I got two new outfits, a mess of long house abayas, an outside abaya, and a bunch of hijabs. Over the years I’ve gotten more outside abayas, and when I went to USA I got a whole mess of new skirts and pants and such.
After I came back to Lebanon from my visit to USA I was pregnant with my second baby. All these nice pants and skirts slowly began being stretched (since I knew it was useless to buy new maternity clothes) and many pants lost the battle of the baby-bulge and popped their zippers or blew out the seams on the butt. Even my skirts with zippers I could only wear them with the zippers open and eventaully under the baby bump. After all this weight loss I’ve been slowly seeing how many skirts I can zip up and so far not many of the tighter ones.
Until yesterday! I pulled on my beautiful black, with big blue and brown flowers, skirt and winced as I zipped it up in the back and gave a sigh of relief as it zipped cleanly and it didn’t hurt to breathe. It fits very snuggly around the middle I admit, but at least it zips! It’s encouraging me to really keep going and work on every kilo seriously.
-Maybe one day I’ll actaully get around to sewing back up the seams of the blow out pants and look better than before in them too.

New Blog

So this is my new blog for how my weight loss is going because my other blog:
http://americanmuslimawriter.blogspot.com/
Didn’t have room for this other goal in my life of loosing weight.

I provided backposts about the weight loss I’ve undergone so far but from this post on is the juice of the matter. It’s constantly under construction so don’t be surprised if one day you come on and there are like 20 posts…just kidding..well maybe.. anyways…

Welcome to my new blog and I hope you all will GET SWEATY WITH ME!!!!